The Role of Routine When Everything Feels Broken

When life falls apart, whether from grief, trauma, or a major personal loss, it can feel like nothing makes sense anymore. Normal tasks may seem pointless or impossible. You might feel lost, unmotivated, or unsure of where to begin. In these moments, creating and holding onto small daily routines can become a powerful way to ground yourself.

Finding Comfort in the Familiar

Grief and emotional pain disrupt our sense of safety and stability. Routines help to gently rebuild those feelings. Even something as simple as making your bed, walking the dog, or having a cup of tea at the same time every day can provide a sense of order and predictability. Routines help regulate your nervous system, reduce decision fatigue, and offer a sense of control that can be especially valuable during emotional recovery. Small habits done with intention can anchor you in the present moment and help you feel less overwhelmed (One Change Group, 2023).

How Routine Supports Mental Health

Routines give your brain a structure to follow, which can reduce feelings of chaos. Research shows that consistent daily habits can lower stress, improve sleep, and support emotional stability. When your day has some level of predictability, your mind does not have to constantly process new decisions, which can be draining during difficult times (Northwestern Medicine, 2022).Over time, even the smallest rituals can create space for healing. You might not feel better right away, but showing up for yourself through daily actions helps rebuild trust in your ability to cope and move forward.

Where to Start

You do not need to plan every minute of your day. Start with one or two small habits that feel manageable. It could be getting up at the same time each morning, journaling for five minutes, or going for a short walk. What matters most is consistency.Choose routines that support your well-being and give you a sense of calm. Be gentle with yourself. Recovery is not about perfection, but about progress and presence.

At the Grief and Trauma Healing Centre, our trauma-informed therapists are here to provide compassionate support as you navigate healing. To book an appointment with one of our therapists, call 780-288-8011 or visit https://griefandtraumahealingcentre.janeapp.com/.

References

One Change Group. (2023). The Power of Routines: 4 Ways Establishing Consistency Supports Mental Health. https://onechangegroup.org/the-power-of-routines-4-ways-establishing-consistency-supports-mental-health/

Northwestern Medicine. (2022). Health Benefits of Having a Routine. https://www.nm.org/healthbeat/healthy-tips/health-benefits-of-having-a-routine